"And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." Eph. 6:4
Children can be quite a challenge to the marriage relationship. A wise wife will support her husband's leadership in the home as much as possible, and will praise him for his fathering skills. Negativity makes a man feel like a failure, and may make him to want to give up.
Does your husband discipline your children wisely? Does he show them love and encourage them? Does he take an interest in their activities and dreams? Does he spend time with them? Does he take part in developing their character? Praise him for these important life skills. If you don't have children - is your husband positive and encouraging around other people's children? Let him know that you have noticed.
If your husband does not experience positive relationships with children, you will need to figure out why. Perhaps he had negative experiences as a child with his own parents, and needs to learn how to respond. Perhaps you can lovingly and patiently show him how to parent - while still maintaining his authority in the home.
My husband and I have no children together but he's been a very caring and loving father to my children from my 1st marriage. When we married I had a 13 y/o girl and 6 y/o boy...if that isn't 'baptism by fire' into the world of parenting I don't know what is! He handled it very well...sometimes perhaps struggling with his expectations but then again don't we all? We have dreams for our children...that's a double edged sword...it's what caring parents do...wish for the best for their children and try to raise them to be responsible, good people...but sometimes in our own dreams for our children we aren't always able to allow them to make their own mistakes...we want to protect them.
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